Do you want to feel more confident? Even if you doubt yourself?
Ever had one of those moments where you feel a burning sensation of imposter syndrome? Some describe it as feeling like you’ve screwed up everything in your life and don’t feel good enough. It is widespread in almost any professional environment.
No matter how much you try to stay positive, this uncertainty can get to you sometimes. But there are ways to fight it. Sometimes if you feel unsure about something you have experience with, it’s all about positive thinking and convincing yourself that you’ve got it.
Science proves that the “fake it till you make it” method is applicable in many areas of life. Even if you’re not exactly sure what you’re doing, here are some ways to look like a pro.
Here are eight ways to feel confident, even when you don’t
“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” – Blake Lively.
1. Act as you own it
This is one of the most critical points. If you don’t know what you’re talking about, let other people believe you do. Avoid “empty” words like “like” or “um” and control your speaking speed.
Look like a production pro by keeping your voice clear and authoritative. Please let everyone know that you are an expert in whatever you are talking about.
Most importantly, think about what you will say before you say it. This way, you won’t be caught mumbling and stumbling over your words. It will be easier to show that you know what you are doing.
2. Spar with your words
It is a natural human reaction to seek approval for our actions. When we get caught up in this, we tend to moan and get lost in our own words. Try to avoid it as much as you can. Be one of those people who say a lot with less.
Silence is at least a little uncomfortable. Choosing your session and comments will show that you are confident and know exactly what is happening.
3. Work on your critical learning skills
Knowledge is the best advantage you can have in any situation. Rush learners often benefit from picking up talking points, quickly synthesizing information, and then forming an opinion. Feel free to jump in with your subject if you can do this.
You will feel more confident. No one will know that you only learned about it a few minutes ago. If you don’t have this ability, fill your free time by learning as much general knowledge and trivia as possible. You never know when it will come hand in hand.
4. Stay positive
Has your boss asked you to do something you’re not sure about yet? Be honest but optimistic about the outcome.
Don’t just say “Yes” because they expect you to be an expert at it. It will be difficult for you to live up to their expectations. Instead, say something like, “I’m not sure how to do this, but I’ll research it. Do not worry. I will get these results.”
But as we mentioned in point 2, please don’t overdo it in your answer, as you may come across as nervous and unsure of your abilities.
5. Avoid confrontation
Many people think the best way to gain confidence is to prove someone wrong. This is not true. Many people don’t seem bright when they get deep into an argument because the other person will always find something wrong with their point.
During such a conversation, focus on trying to reach an agreement with the other person. It’s never easy, but if you try hard enough, you’ll find some common ground.
Not only does this help show that you know what you’re talking about, but it also portrays you as a bigger person who doesn’t let petty squabbles get in their way.
6. Approach everything with a sense of humor
People are always drawn to someone who can make light of a difficult situation – even if they don’t fully realize it. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and try to joke around when appropriate.
Doing so will show that you are not too worried about making mistakes. This can make people think you know more about your topic.
7. Stay humble, but look confident
Like a sense of humor, humility is another beautiful trait in every human being. Don’t portray yourself as having a huge ego or someone who can’t let others take their place in the spotlight. If you’re down-to-earth about your knowledge and keep it casual, it makes your intelligence seem even more incredible.
8. Get the last word
This does not mean stealing other people’s ideas. But it has been proven that the person who speaks last in a conversation is usually the one who makes the biggest impression. Even if you don’t have anything important to say, review what’s already been said and write a clear, concise summary to look like a pro and leave a good impression.
9. Encourage others
Be ready to inspire those around you in your community or work. Your extra encouragement helps to encourage and inspire others. When you inspire others, not only does it make you feel more confident, but everyone feels good about their participation.
10. Be a good listener
Make it your goal to be a good listener. You understand well what others tell you. (O Prophet!) Look at their conversations! Ask questions to clarify anything you don’t understand.
Paying attention to what people are saying makes them feel like you hear them. They will be more likely to share their thoughts with you because they know you will listen to them.
11. Be a good communicator
You can feel confident when you make an effort to communicate well. Learn to share your ideas effectively. Ask a trusted friend or colleague. Ask them:
- Did I share enough or too much detail?
- Was my explanation clear? How could I explain this better?
- Were there words I used in confusion?
- Did I speak too fast? Too slow?
12. Become a disciple
Always have the mindset that there is something to learn. Be open to learning from anyone, regardless of age or experience. Don’t wait for someone to start your lesson at work or school. Let your curiosity prompt you to ask questions or explore. As you learn, you will feel more confident and knowledgeable.
13. Be prepared to deal with conflict
Conflicts are inevitable. When they arise, be prepared to deal them with humility and purpose. If you let the match go unresolved, it will likely lead to more significant problems. Talk to the people involved in the conflict one-on-one. Ask questions to get everyone’s perspective.
Talk kindly to those involved, and don’t reserve judgment until you hear the story. Resolve the conflict as best you can without labeling anyone. Keep the battle private, so those involved are not embarrassed or cast in a bad light.
14. Be willing to help
A confident person is a person who is ready to step up and help. Be willing to volunteer for extra tasks, whether it’s at home, school, or work. Being willing to take on responsibilities shows leadership and a caring heart.
15. Be honest
Honesty is an important character quality. Dishonest people deserve not to be trusted. Your honesty reassures those around you that they have your best interests at heart and that you are a safe person.
16. Be assertive
Self-confidence means self-motivation. Even if you don’t wait for others to initiate, you start by taking steps. Self-confident people are ambitious and full of energy.
17. Take responsibility
Being confident means that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. You arrive on time for your meetings or classes. People know they can trust you because you’ve established yourself as a responsible person.
18. Be a team player
Having a solid teamwork ethic gives you an edge at work or school. You are willing to cooperate with others. Good team player skills mean:
- You are eager to follow the leadership of others
- You value the opinions and ideas of others
- You take ownership of a project
- You share your thoughts with humility
- You don’t interrupt when talking to others
- You take your suggestions lightly
19. Keep calm
Being confident means staying calm under pressure, no matter the situation. Stressful situations reveal a person’s true character. Be sure and calm, ready to help solve the problem without stress. Your calm helps the people around you to stay calm.
20. Be a problem solver
When a problem arises, be proactive in finding a solution. Don’t just mention the problem; be prepared to brainstorm a solution. Being confident means taking the initiative to solve the problem instead of waiting for someone else to do it.
Final thoughts on developing a confident vibe
These tips can help you kick that pesky feeling of insecurity out of your life. Remember that no one is 100% sure of what they are doing at any time. Even if you don’t feel confident, you can pretend it is – and it looks great.