Not all separations are final and lead to divorce. Your husband may want to take you back, although he may not be too forthcoming about it.
The good news is that he will show undeniable signs that he wants to rekindle the love. Just pay attention to these 17 signs.
Signs your ex-husband wants you back:
1. He’s open about getting back together
If reconciliation came out of the cat’s mouth, it is. But, of course, talk is cheap. He may tell you he misses you, but this may not necessarily translate into action.
That said, if it manages to exhibit the other signs listed below, you know it’s the real deal.
2. He took responsibility for what happened
Maybe he is a football player. Or he could be a workaholic who puts his career on you. But if he wants you back, he will take responsibility for what he did in your marriage.
This means that he has not been making excuses for a long time now. He no longer blames you or other people.
He does what he promises to do.
3. He tries to fix the issues that caused you to break up in the first place
Taking responsibility for what he did is just the tip of the iceberg. Resolving the issues that caused you to break up in the first place is a clear sign that he wants to get back together with you.
For example, this could be attending therapy or withdrawing from work commitments.
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Let’s say you’re reading this article on how to save your marriage on your own. In that case, chances are your union isn’t what it used to be…and maybe it’s so bad that you feel like your world is falling apart.
You feel that all the passion, love, and romance have been completely extinguished.
You feel like you, and your partner can’t stop yelling at each other.
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4. He talks about future goals – and you’re included
Let’s say you had a casual conversation with your estranged husband. You ask him how he is, and he talks about plans.
Surprisingly, you entered the picture.
This is pretty obvious. In his heart, he still sees his future with you. He noticed it – even casually – may be the push you need to bounce back and eventually make peace.
It’s up to you if you want to have a future with him.
5. He communicates with you often
You know your husband wants to make up if he contacts you. And it’s not just asking about children or pets. He calls or texts like he did before he left.
He does this because he wants to rekindle the relationship you once had.
On the other hand, he may be trying to compensate for the poor communication skills that led to the breakup. This is one of the attempts to solve the problems that caused you to drift apart in the first place.
The first reason he calls you is to talk about the kids first. But sometimes the phone calls are so frequent that it makes you overthink the past. Was he still interested in me?
6. He often suppresses your fond memories
If he often remembers the good times you spent together, it’s clear that he still wants you back.
And this is not just a guess. This is backed up by science.
According to a Psychology Today report, reminiscing about the good old days can revive relationships.
In grieving couples (for example, separated ones like yours), this can create even more grieving feelings. First, it can help you “realize that they were happier before than they are now.”
In other words, remembering puts a possible light at the end of the tunnel. It might make you want to get back together and relive your glory days.
7. He continues to ask for advice
If your ex keeps asking for advice, it’s not just because they need help. On the contrary, he may try to win your favor again.
Experts call this the Franklin effect. The Science of People report explains:
“There is immense value in asking advice from people we want to get closer to…
“It states that when you ask someone for help, it makes them like you and want to help you more… As social creatures, we feel good when we help others, and those positive feelings establish a bond.”
8. He’s still looking for you
If your husband wants you back, he will make sure to protect you. This means protecting you physically or taking you to a doctor if necessary.
And even if he is miles away from you, he will still do his best to look after you. It’s as simple as texting you, “Text me when you get there.”
Alternatively, he can give you a taser or pepper spray for a “good cause.”
9. He would drop anything for you
Say you had problems with your car. Even worse, you may need to be hospitalized. If your husband is serious about getting back together, he will drop everything and rush to be with you.
He may be at work—perhaps on a business trip abroad. He loves you even if you break up. You are still – and will – always be first.
10. He trusts you
He has to go on an urgent trip and can’t find a dog sitter at the last minute. His first instinct is to leave his dog with you without batting an eyelash.
Even if it doesn’t seem like much, it’s a sign that he still trusts you. He knows you’re after him, which is just one of the many reasons he’s determined to get back with you.
The only question is: will you trust him again?
11. He’s grateful – and shows it
A grateful husband is eager to win you back.
It’s more than a standing ovation, no. Remember: actions always speak louder than words. So, for example, he can show his gratitude by offering help or giving a simple gift.
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12. He is curious about your present life
It is true that a husband who no longer loves you will not care about what is happening in your life. But if he keeps asking—perhaps he’s interested in your life – it’s clear he wants to get back with you.
It’s an old trick, you see. He wants to know what you’re up to, especially if you’re dating someone else. He wants to get back into the picture and make sure there is no resistance along the way.
13. Enlists the help of your children, family, or friends
He may have done much on this list, but you didn’t feel it. He will turn to his children, family, or friends as a last resort.
For example, he may ask them to talk to you.
Maybe they’re acting as informants—telling him what you’re doing and where you’ll be. So don’t be surprised (more on that later) if he can get in the way of your dates.
14. He keeps flirting with you
Is your ex-husband still flirting with you? This sign that he still wants to get back together with you.
It worked in the past, after all!
Remember that his flirting style may not be “typical,” such as a sexy glance or a brush on the arm. Instead, he can engage in other “gentle” activities, such as reading or standing taller.
15. He apologizes for his faults
Yes, he is finally apologizing for his wrongdoing that ruined your marriage. He said he wanted to make it up to you because he was sincerely sorry. Plus, he’s shown you that he’s changed and is ready to start over with you.
16. He has not met anyone seriously
Men often engage in rebound relationships to make their exes jealous. But if your husband wants you back, he will do the opposite.
He will not meet anyone.
This can last for months or even years. Maybe it runs sometimes, but it doesn’t last very long. And even if you ask him about these escapades, he’ll stay mum.
Deep in her heart, he would rather be single than be with someone. There is simply no substitute for you!
17. He asks about your present love life
He’s not asking about your love life out of curiosity, but he wants to ensure you’re not dating anyone. Before he tells you his intentions, of must still be single.
Although maybe he won’t give up if you don’t.
Your estranged husband may want you back, but the question is, do you want to get back together?
See, saving a relationship is hard when you’re the only one trying. Still, that doesn’t always mean your relationship should end.
Because if you still love your spouse, you need a plan of attack to fix your marriage.
Many things can slowly infect a marriage – distance, lack of communication, and sexual problems. These issues can lead to infidelity and disconnection if not appropriately addressed.
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The strategies Brad reveals here are compelling and can differentiate between a “happy marriage” and an “unhappy divorce.”