While finding a “soulmate” might be something that Hollywood sells to romantics around February of each year, actually getting your soulmate is a life-altering experience.
What most people tend to forget is that soulmates aren’t found – they’re made. Soulmates don’t magically fall out of the sky or bump into you on the street: they’re someone you consciously have to stay with and work with.
And when you do, they fit you perfectly. Here are 11 reasons why soulmates are always compatible with you:
1. There Is Never Any Question About Compromise
Two people in a relationship are in it together, but that doesn’t mean that they’re the same person.
Both of you are different people with their own backgrounds, preferences, and goals, which means there are times that you’ll have different outlooks on the same thing.
A soulmate doesn’t insist that they get things their way all the time, or that you always call the shots in the relationship – they know the value of compromise.
And more importantly, they’re not shy about discussing compromise with you, especially on the things that you may not see eye-to-eye on.
So many people are too scared of any potential arguments and disagreements to ever bring up the question of compromise, but a soulmate doesn’t have that problem.
If anything, they’ll be happy to hear your side of the issue, and may even incorporate it into their own views.
2. Both Of You Can Grow Without The Expense Of The Other
Relationships should always be dynamic, changing with the times and taking into account how both partners grow as people during their time together.
Sometimes, this growth isn’t always the same for each person – one may move up very rapidly while others prefer to take their time.
What’s important is that this growth never comes at the expense of the other person. Soulmates understand that everyone moves at their own pace, and they’ll gladly make room for your growth without compromising themselves as it happens.
Likewise, you’ll always feel comfortable going about your goals without second-guessing yourself and how it’ll affect them or your relationship as a whole.
3. Things Are Calmer When They’re Around
Relationships are a lot of work, and that can sometimes come with the obligation that you should be busy with the relationship.
That can give you a lot of pressure to always be the best version of yourself that you can be with your soulmate, and that can often make things far more hectic in your relationship than they really are.
However, a soulmate understands that there are things that take time and shouldn’t be hurried about, which is why things are always calmer with them around.
They’re not encouraging you to be lazy – but they are encouraging you to take your time with the things that matter.
They’ll still be there, no matter how long it takes.
The problem? Many people can make you feel calm and comfortable, but that doesn’t mean they’re your soulmate!
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4. They Make You Content As Well As Happy
Happiness is a wild ride, a thrilling experience painting the town whatever shade the both of you want and getting away with it. Contentment is a quiet night on the couch, with no words said and simply enjoying the time you have with each other.
Soulmates understand the value of contentment, and will never begrudge you for not doing anything more “exciting”.
Because while spice and sparks can make a pretty memorable relationship, it’s those contented moments where both of you are comfortable with each other that make the relationship last. Relationships aren’t always meant to be on a high: there are natural dips and areas where you both are just there for each other.
A soulmate will always be content with you because you alone are enough for them: no need to move mountains or swim oceans daily.
5. You’re Not The Same Person And That’s Okay
With a relationship, it’s very easy to blur the lines between where your partner begins and where you end.
When two people are together and are that close, the boundaries between each individual can sometimes be difficult to tell since they’re such a massive presence in your life.
Soulmates understand this and deliberately make the effort to define who they are (and who you are) in the relationship.
At its heart, a relationship is about two people who deliberately choose to stay together, not two people who lose their individuality to become a single unit.
6. You’re Heading In The Same Direction Even If You’re Taking Different Ways To Get There
We’ve all heard of that outlook that relationships should always change you for the better – but what most people tend to forget is that even when changing, people have their own ways of doing it.
It’s nice to have someone by your side that can cheer you on and support you, even if they differ in how they’d do it.
For soulmates, that means personal goals, ambitions, and anything that they want is always within reach, even if they have slightly different ways of getting there.
They don’t hold your way of doing it against you and accept that as different people, you have different ways of going about things. This is even more crucial if you’re both aiming for a goal together since it gives you the breathing room that you need to go at it your own way without feeling self-conscious.
And who knows – their way of doing it might just be something you can take a few lessons from, and vice versa.
7. The Man Acts Like a Hero
Soulmates are compatible when the man feels like the provider and protector of his partner. This is what ignites his love for his soulmate, and in turn, makes his partner feel comfortable and secure.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
8. There’s No Disagreement On The Big Things That Matter To You
Relationships are built on common ground.
There has to be a certain set of goals, values, and other things that you and your significant other have to agree on, or you’d be butting heads all the time.
They don’t always have to be the same – for example, it’s perfectly healthy to have different preferences in ice cream flavors – but on the things that matter, you two are together.
Soulmates know, understand, and most importantly agree on the things that matter to the both of you.
While you may have different viewpoints on a lot of topics, they have a similar outlook on you on things that matter most to you, and you have no issues with the things that matter the most to them.
9. Little Things Matter As Much As The Big Stuff
Life’s full of big and small things.
The little things may not always take as much time and effort as the big things, but they’re still important things that give your life the variety it needs.
Little doesn’t always mean “unimportant” – and in a relationship, knowing this can sometimes be the glue that holds it all together.
Soulmates don’t sweat the small stuff, but they do know how important it is to you. Sure, a grand gesture is something you’ll excitedly share with people on your social media or over lunch, but the small things can also be a key part of what makes your relationship work.
Soulmates know this, and they have no problem with it at all. The reason why the little things matter as much as the big stuff to them is that they pay attention, and sometimes that’s what you need in a partner:
Someone who makes it known that you matter to them.
10. Being With Them Doesn’t Drain Your Energy
People affect other people simply by existing.
You’ll always react differently or think differently when there’s someone else in the equation, and constantly having to leave extra mental room for someone else can be exhausting.
After all, there are times when we just want something over and done without having to second-guess ourselves or consult other people.
Soulmates don’t put this kind of mental load on you. You’ll always feel comfortable doing things or being around them since you don’t have to try so hard or do so many things to feel “right”.
Simply being with them is enough, and you always enjoy your time together without feeling like being with them is a chore.
11. There’s Always Effort Given In The Relationship
Being consistent is perhaps one of the hardest things that people have to do – and in a relationship, this becomes even harder.
It’s all-too-easy to be complacent and take a relationship for granted: and when that happens, that’s one of the first warning signs that something is about to go terribly wrong.
Soulmates know that effort counts, and they make a deliberate choice to always give it their best in everything they do in your relationship.
It may not always be something big, but it’s always the right amount of effort that’s needed to keep everything running smoothly.
This is important because it shows that they’re willing to try. In a culture where it’s so easy to ghost people or simply just forget, trying is one of the best signs that someone is there for the long haul.
Effort is ultimately what helps build a strong relationship, and soulmates have that in spades.
By now you should have a better idea of why soulmates are always compatible. And as I mentioned, one of the main keys is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.