I want I may say that I had one single epiphany that modified all the things. But for me, my non secular awakening has been extra refined and drawn out than that.
Instead of an immediate flash, it has felt extra like a fixed unfolding. An unlearning course of, with many twists and turns alongside the best way.
What actually occurs after a non secular awakening?
Expect the sudden
If there’s one factor I’ve realized about non secular awakening, it’s to count on the sudden.
Much like life itself, everybody’s journey there’s completely different. We all take completely different routes on our manner to the identical vacation spot.
How lengthy does a non secular awakening final? I believe it in all probability lasts so long as it takes. If that doesn’t sound very useful, it’s essential to keep in mind that non secular awakening might share comparable hallmarks, however there isn’t a pre-prescribed timeline.
You hear tales of immediate and steady non secular awakening, like that of non secular trainer Eckhard Tolle who speaks about an in a single day inside transformation:
“I couldn’t live with myself any longer. And in this a question arose without an answer: who is the ‘I’ that cannot live with the self? What is the self? I felt drawn into a void! I didn’t know at the time that what really happened was the mind-made self, with its heaviness, its problems, that lives between the unsatisfying past and the fearful future, collapsed. It dissolved. The next morning I woke up and everything was so peaceful. The peace was there because there was no self. Just a sense of presence or “beingness,” simply observing and watching.”
But, as I discussed within the introduction, my very own path has felt much more like a lengthy and winding highway than a direct arrival at any form of peace and enlightenment.
So how are you aware you might be experiencing a non secular awakening? (particularly if it doesn’t come to you in a flash).
I might liken it to falling in love. When you’re feeling it, you simply know. Something clicks inside and things won’t ever be the identical once more. It brings with it adjustments, a few of that are drastic and all-encompassing, others that are much more humble than revelatory.
I’d like to share what occurs after a non secular awakening, from my very own personal experiences. I hope a few of it resonates with you too.
What occurs after non secular awakening?
1) You’re nonetheless you
It’s an apparent level, however one I believe nonetheless wants making. Even after a non secular awakening, you might be nonetheless you.
You might really feel in another way about many things in life, however in essence, a lot of your character and preferences will possible stay intact. The experiences which have formed you and molded you throughout the years haven’t altered.
I believe I used to be ready for the second to arrive the place I might develop into extra Budha-like.
Where my knowledge would evolve to a level that I spoke like Yoda and instinctively knew how to sprout my very own mung beans.
But alas, I used to be nonetheless sarcastic, nonetheless beloved pizza and wine, and nonetheless beloved a lazy lie-in greater than life itself.
Even although your concepts, beliefs, and emotions about life might have had a makeover, you might be nonetheless experiencing life from inside your individual pores and skin.
Regular life goes on — visitors jams, office politics, dental appointments, unloading the dishwasher.
And together with the mundane, these completely human feelings nonetheless seem — frustration, grumpy days, self-doubt, awkward interactions, placing your foot in your mouth.
I’ll confess, I believe I’d hoped non secular awakening may supply extra of an escape from self. A transcendence of all of the elements of life that may form of suck. Maybe it does, and I simply haven’t obtained there but.
But it’s been extra of an acceptance of self.
Rather than create a utopian existence the place struggling now not happens, it’s extra of a recognition and acknowledgement that all the things is a part of the wealthy tapestry of life.
The good, the unhealthy, and the ugly.
Spiritual awakening isn’t about creating a “perfect” you. It isn’t the top of a fairytale. Real-life continues.
2) The curtains come down and also you understand it’s a theatre
The finest manner that I can describe what it’s like to “wake up” throughout non secular awakening is that this…
Life earlier than felt like I used to be on the theatre. I used to be so engrossed in all of the motion, and would usually get swept away in all of it.
I might chuckle on the humorous elements, cry on the unhappy elements — boo, cheer and jeer away.
And then the curtains got here down, I appeared round and will see for the primary time that it was solely a play. I used to be simply a spectator within the viewers watching the motion.
I had been getting so carried away and consumed by phantasm. As entertaining because it was, it wasn’t as severe as I’d been making out.
That’s not to say I nonetheless don’t lose myself within the drama, as a result of I do.
But I discover it simpler to remind myself of the reality that Shakespeare so eloquently summed up:
“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players”.
This realisation helps you to start to let go of overidentification with what occurs to you in life.
3) You re-evaluate
One of essentially the most vital features of non secular awakening appears to be the method of re-evaluation.
It’s probably not a alternative for most individuals.
Once the veils of phantasm start to carry you can not assist however question so lots of the assumptions and beliefs you as soon as held about your self, and about life.
You begin to see social conditioning that you just as soon as have been blinded to.
It’s simple to imagine we all know who we’re when actually we’re solely guessing. The fact is way deeper. And but, we proceed to maintain onto these false notions.
So after a non secular awakening, loads of re-assessing begins. For some folks, it might flip their complete life the wrong way up.
The things they as soon as discovered value in or loved might now not convey pleasure or that means. For me, it was the 1001 things I found I had been hiding in.
Status, a career path, consumerism, and a lot of what I had as soon as believed was the “expected path” to soak up life. It all felt very pointless all of a sudden.
My inclination to do many things that when mattered to me seemingly disappeared. But all through this unravelling, nothing concrete took its place.
Personally, I didn’t discover that the things that when mattered have been all of the sudden changed with different things that mattered.
Instead, they left a hole. A space in my life. That felt concurrently liberating, releasing, and barely terrifying.
4) You may really feel lost, indifferent or disconnected
For me, the method felt like letting go. There was aid and unburdening. But it additionally left me with a lot of uncertainty too.
Feeling lost after non secular awakening appears to be a very common expertise.
Spiritual awakening doesn’t include directions on what to do subsequent, and a lot of individuals can really feel fairly dazed and uncertain.
You might expertise a lot of way of life adjustments. You might launch sure things or folks from life however you don’t essentially know the place to go from there.
I questioned just about my complete existence. Everything I’d as soon as labored in the direction of.
And I assume I used to be fairly lost (definitely to folks taking a look at me from the surface) though I didn’t thoughts a lot.
In reality, I give up my job, lived in a tent for a whereas, and travelled (pretty aimlessly) around the globe for a few years — together with loads of different ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ type cliches.
I assume I used to be going with the stream. It did really feel like I used to be extra conscious of the current, and fewer fixated on the previous or the long run.
But at instances it was disorientating and complicated.
5) You have to keep away from non secular traps
As I obtained to grips with new beliefs and new methods of wanting on the world I naturally wished to discover my spirituality extra.
Before this occurred to me I might have thought-about myself agnostic at most, after rising up in an atheist family the place Science was God.
So I experimented with new practices and rituals. I began to combine with extra spiritually minded folks.
But as I explored variations of myself I started to fall into a very common entice. I began to create a new identification based mostly on a picture I had of spirituality.
It was nearly like I felt I ought to dress, act and converse like a spiritually aware particular person. But that is simply one other character we undertake or position we find yourself inadvertently taking part in.
The factor with spirituality is that it’s similar to all the things else in life:
It may be manipulated.
Unfortunately, not all of the gurus and consultants that preach spirituality achieve this with our greatest pursuits at coronary heart. Some take benefit to twist spirituality into one thing poisonous – toxic even.
This is the non secular trappings that the shaman Rudá Iandé speaks about. With over 30 years of expertise within the discipline, he’s seen and skilled all of it.
From exhausting positivity to downright dangerous non secular practices, this free video he created tackles a vary of poisonous spirituality habits.
So what makes Rudá completely different from the remainder? How are you aware he’s not additionally one of many manipulators he warns in opposition to?
The answer is easy:
He promotes non secular empowerment from inside, reasonably than an imitation of others. Rather than let you know how it’s best to follow spirituality, Rudá places the main focus solely on you.
Essentially, he places you again within the driver’s seat of your non secular journey.
6) Your relationships change
As you alter, it’s pure that your relationships with different folks can change too. Some folks felt like I’d modified, and I assume I had.
And that meant that some connections fell away, some remained robust, and others reached a form of acceptance (I ended making an attempt to change folks and allowed them to be who they’re).
You might develop into far more heightened to inauthenticity or manipulation in others. I undoubtedly suppose my very own personal and energetic boundaries really feel firmer now.
I’m positive I do have extra mates and other people in my life who additionally establish as being on a non secular path, however I even have loads of individuals who don’t both. And it actually doesn’t really feel prefer it issues.
I believe that’s from the understanding that everybody is on their very own path, and their journey is their very own. I’ve actually zero curiosity in making an attempt to persuade anybody of my very own beliefs or view on things.
7) You really feel extra related to the oneness of life
Ok, so being extra related to the oneness of life sounds a bit fluffy, so I need to clarify what I imply.
This confirmed up in a couple of actually noticeable methods for me. Firstly, I felt a a lot deeper union with the pure world.
I had lived within the metropolis earlier than, however now being in busy locations creates a complete sensory overload for me. It was like I remembered which world I actually belonged to. Natural settings felt like house and created a deep peace inside me.
I can’t actually describe it however I felt a robust energetic shift from merely sitting in nature and will fortunately be there simply staring into space for hours.
I additionally felt much more empathy in the direction of my fellow man. I skilled extra love and compassion in my day-to-day life.
Every dwelling factor felt like a a part of me. Their supply was additionally my supply.
8) You don’t take things as critically
You know while you see somebody who appears utterly unbothered by all the things?
They appear glad, relaxed, and carefree. Well, sadly that’s not what occurred to me (LOL). But one factor is for positive, I began to take life a lot much less critically.
That might not sound like a good factor, however it actually has been.
It’s not that I don’t care, as a result of I do. But I don’t get as caught up in things that don’t matter. It’s far simpler to forgive and overlook. I don’t waste energy on grudges.
I’m not going to say that recognising how my worries and grievances are solely tales in my thoughts made them utterly disappear.
But they move by me a little simpler. I’m much less tempted to grasp onto them.
I remind myself, hey, it’s nothing severe, it’s solely life.
I merely stopped caring about lots of the trivia. Life felt extra of a sport to be skilled reasonably than to take so critically.
9) You develop into extra conscious of your self
Generally, I really feel a lot extra related to myself.
I get robust intuitive emotions that I can’t actually verbalise however really feel like a realising. I really feel like I’m extra aware of the sentiments I expertise.
Sometimes feelings nonetheless take maintain and cloud me, and it’s solely later I understand I used to be caught up in them.
But different instances I’m ready to watch them from the surface within the second I’m experiencing one thing.
That doesn’t imply I don’t nonetheless really feel unhappy, harassed, judgemental — or no matter it’s I’m experiencing — however it doesn’t take over me. The true me remains to be in management and observing these reactions come up.
I believe you develop into extra in tune with your self and extra self-aware.
As a consequence, it’s additionally tougher to cover from your self. I’m not going to lie, generally this may be annoying. Because let’s face it, a little little bit of delusion helps you to off the hook.
Feeling unhealthy, buy groceries. Feeling lonely, begin courting somebody. Feeling lost, watch TV. There are loads of nice distractions which we get used to hiding in.
Plenty of which now not really feel like an choice anymore since you see straight by it.
You will in all probability really feel a better sense of consciousness concerning the world, and that features about your self too.
10) You might discover synchronicities
I’ve lost rely of the variety of instances things have magically fallen into place for me. The “right time and the right place” develop into a common incidence.
I don’t understand how to clarify it. All I can say is that the extra I surrendered my need for tight control over life, the extra effortlessly things appeared to occur round me.
I heard the analogy as soon as of combating in opposition to the present versus permitting your self to stream downstream. I believe that’s a great way of explaining it.
People usually ask me how I managed to give up my job 8 years in the past, skip around the globe from place to place and nonetheless have all the things work out simply high quality.
The trustworthy answer is that I’m undecided.
But day after day, month after month, and year after year it’s nearly as if life is co-conspiring with me to ensure that things fall into place the best way that they need to.
11) You nonetheless don’t have all of the solutions
I believed maybe a non secular awakening was by some means getting all of the solutions to life.
Again, I can’t converse for others, however I’ll categorically say that the alternative has occurred to me.
The things I believed I knew about life, I began to question and see as falsehoods.
Eventually, after the unravelling of the views and beliefs I had as soon as constructed my identification upon, I haven’t changed them with something concrete.
I as soon as thought I knew things, and now I understand I do know nothing — to me this looks like progress.
I’m extra open-minded. I low cost far fewer things, particularly if I don’t have any data or personal expertise of them.
Maybe as soon as upon a time, I used to be searching for the that means of life, however any need to discover conclusive solutions has additionally gone.
I’m glad to simply expertise life, and that feels just like the that means of life now.
Every at times I get glimpses of what I might name “truth”. But it isn’t an answer like some form of a proof you may even verbalise.
These are flashes of understanding, the place you may see by the phantasm, the place all of it feels proper, the place you could have entry to a deeper realising, and also you simply sense that it’s all going to be okay.
12) It takes work
There are some non secular lecturers who make non secular awakening look easy. It’s nearly as if they’ve had some form of full obtain and stay in a totally enlightened state irrespective of what’s going on round them.
And then there’s the remainder of us.
Spiritual trainer Adyashanti refers to this distinction as abiding and non-abiding awakening.
Even although you may’t go backward and undo the reality you could have already seen (or felt) you may fall again beneath the spell of phantasm once more at instances.
One of my favourite quotes to illustrate that is from Ram Dass who reasonably wittily identified:
“If you think you are enlightened, go and spend a week with your family.”
The fact is it takes work. We’re requested every day to select. Ego or self. Oneness or separation. Illusion or fact.
Life remains to be a classroom and there’s a lot to study. It takes aware effort and dedication to assist your self by this course of.
Personally, I discover sure practices actually assist me with this. They are the identical ones that domesticate self-awareness and growth — things like journaling, meditation, yoga, and breathwork.
It’s loopy how one thing so simple as your breath can immediately aid you to join together with your true self.
I used to be launched to an uncommon free breathwork video created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê, who I discussed earlier, which focuses on dissolving stress and boosting inside peace.
Rudá hasn’t simply created a bog-standard respiration train – he’s cleverly mixed his a few years of breathwork follow and shamanism to create this unimaginable stream – which is free to participate in.
If you need to join with your self, I’d advocate testing Rudá’s free breathwork video.
To conclude: What is life after awakening?
I’ve executed my finest to discover among the things I’ve felt alone non secular journey, I hope some things ring true for you. I don’t profess for one second to be any form of sensible sage or have the solutions.
But I believe that life after awakening is one the place your perspective of actuality shifts. It’s now not solely based mostly by yourself separate ego.
You’ll in all probability begin questioning all the things you believed to be true earlier than. You’ll begin to have a look at your life in another way. And possibly you received’t need to change something, however possibly you’ll change all the things.
Your priorities will shift. You’ll begin to value experiences over materials possessions. You might begin to care extra concerning the atmosphere and animals. You’ll in all probability begin to question money, energy, politics, faith, and so on.
You’ll study to belief your self extra and to belief your instinct. Your relationship with your self will change. Your relationship with different folks will change. You’ll begin to respect the fantastic thing about nature and the world round you.
You’ll come to perceive that there isn’t any absolute fact and that all of us create our personal realities. This will lead to a lot of self-reflection and introspection.