“Forgive others. Not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
We do not understand pain, deception, or betrayal when we come to this world. But as we mobilize our lives, we hold onto these feelings, and if we don’t cleanse our energy bodies of these toxic thoughts, they develop over time. Holding grudges can make us sick, causing mental ease, which can breed physical ailments.
At first, it will not be easy to forgive those who hurt you in the past. But it is necessary to evolve and drain yourself of your “pain-pain-body.”
This is what Eckhart Tolle calls it in his book ‘The Power of Now.’ These tips will help you get started on the path to healing your emotional pain and allowing the light to shine once more in your soul.
There is excellent value in every act of forgiveness. You can forgive yourself; you can forgive others. You can forgive even when it is unclear who will be forgiven because forgiveness is not about who is guilty or at fault. It is letting go completely and forever.
To forgive is to realize that what happened has already happened and that there is no point in letting it rule the rest of your life. Forgiveness refreshes you and helps you move forward. Here are five unique ways to make this step possible:
5 Ways to forgive and let go
1. Don’t try; be
While setting and achieving goals is a part of life, don’t let the process of reaching new heights keep you stuck. Before you can begin working on forgiveness, you must accept where you are in your journey.
Even then, don’t emphasize the distance between your subconscious and forgiving others—take one step, and stay there during each process step.
When the need arises for trials, you allow your nature to pass effortlessly. Believe in yourself and remember that you have incredible potential as a spiritual being. Just as you shouldn’t hold on to past pain, you shouldn’t cause yourself more pain by criticizing your progress.
Breathe and remember that you are worth much more than you give yourself credit for.
2. Do not identify with any thoughts – just silently observe them
Instead of considering our thinking, we torment ourselves unnecessarily by being so quick to cling to our ideas. Our egos (minds) always want to fight for control, so the key here is to step back.
Do not try to eliminate or change your thoughts; (And you took their word for it!) Once you develop an awareness of your mind, you will realize that the Ego wants to play tricks on you.
Feeling authentic is within your heart and soul – you will begin to vibrate at a higher frequency by being more in tune with your feelings rather than your thoughts. Destructive thoughts about your past will enter your mind less often.
A few years ago, the National Science Foundation estimated that people had an average of 70,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day. 80% of these thoughts are harmful, and 95% are repetitive. This means that we don’t think – we remember. To rewire our brains for more valuable thoughts, we should not label those thoughts as “good” or “bad.”
They are thoughts, and you don’t own them – they come and go as they please from the collective consciousness. You may not have control over what goes into your mind, but you can control how you react to it.
3. Send love to those who hurt you
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Wishing bad for people will eventually destroy you. At this point, you are lowering yourself, thus inviting lousy karma. You attract yourself, so you only perpetuate the pain you feel in your own life by seeking revenge.
You will not feel free until you surrender to love. Therefore, you should love those who hurt you. As difficult as it may seem.
It doesn’t have to be done overnight. But taking small steps to increase love in your heart will pay off every time. Break free from your addiction to pain, and you will find true salvation and satisfaction there.
4. Focus on being the best version of yourself
“Hurt people, hurt people; healed people, heal people.”
As simple as this concept may seem, many of us forget it in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives. There is so much suffering on the planet that the hurt keeps the pain alive and passes it on to someone else. To avoid spreading this dis-ease of mind and soul, accept that you can control your emotions.
Others cannot negatively affect you unless they permit you. Use all your energy to improve yourself, not to destroy others.
The job is ultimately the same, but you’ll feel better about improving yourself rather than tearing others down. Plus, you’ll find peace within, and that’s better than toxic thoughts.
5. Forgive, because waiting for Kamal is unrealistic
We live in a world where people make mistakes and often correct them. While some have worse fates than others, most are accidental rather than intentional. We’re all just trying to survive, and most don’t intentionally wish harm on others.
Realize that we are all swimming in the same sea and fighting the same currents. All of us are just trying to keep our heads above water, but sometimes we sink during this trial of life. Does this mean we should be punished for falling on our feet once? Allow people to make mistakes and grow. Remember that you probably made the same mistake once.
You can forgive others more easily when you remember that people like you are human and suffer the same misfortunes and bumps in the road.
Just because you have difficulty forgiving someone doesn’t mean you’re bad at forgiving them. Forgiving someone takes patience, time, and determination. Be kind, keep trying, and don’t be hard on yourself.