So far, you have felt that everything is going great in your relationship. You have fun with your partner, you overcome problems successfully and you live this life as a couple. But now things seem a little off and you can’t shake the feeling that your partner is unhappy.
You started to notice slight differences in your partner’s behavior. And you think it’s time to get to the bottom of what caused it. It’s no secret that your partner has been acting strange lately. But are they secretly unhappy in your relationship? If you are happy, shouldn’t your partner be satisfied?
Whether it’s occurred to you over the course of a few years or just popped into your face overnight, it’s great that you realized it. Not everyone solves the problems in their relationship or takes the time to evaluate the situation.
Even your partner may not realize that they are giving off a negative impression or that they are unhappy. So consider the realization that something is wrong as a step in the right direction.
In a romantic relationship, you learn about your partner and can usually pick up on their emotions. Facial expressions, tone changes, and body language tell you when they’re angry. The same applies to symptoms of depression and unhappiness.
What are the reasons for your partner’s spending habits? Are they unhappy enough to leave the relationship, or is it just minor depression? If they are upset with you, why not say something instead of keeping it a secret?
Worrying about the state of your relationship is stressful for you. Besides, maybe your spouse feels some of them too. Ideally, you’ll be able to talk about your concerns, and it’s no longer a mystery to you whether or not your partner is unhappy.
Well-being and happiness depend on many factors. But studies show that being part of a married couple makes you happier than being single. Researchers at Pennsylvania State University surveyed 691 people about their relationship status and quality. They concluded: “People usually feel better about themselves and their lives when they are in romantic and committed relationships.”
Communication with your partner is essential. If you’re not ready to have a serious conversation with your partner yet, and you think your partner is showing any of these three warning signs, they may be secretly unhappy.
3 Warning signs your partner is secretly unhappy
1. You notice changes in your partner’s behavior
You find out that your spouse bought a video game console, and they never had any interest in video games before. Your partner shows changes in their weight, either up or down—your partner dresses in a different or younger style.
These changes can be warning signs that your partner is secretly unhappy and, at the same time, wants to change the relationship. You may wish to adapt their style, behavior, appearance, or hobbies to someone else’s.
A change in your partner’s behavior may not signify that they’ve found another romantic partner, but it’s clear they need a change.
If they are moody, try to change you, spend more time alone, or spend more time with other people, you should take this as a warning sign that your partner is secretly unhappy.
2. Your partner is emotionally unavailable
Emotional cheating is one of the ways that your spouse can distance himself from you. Emotional infidelity, cyber cheating, and virtual affairs; are all possibilities if your partner is unavailable to you. Your partner shares his feelings, thoughts, and attention with someone other than you.
Many people perceive this as betrayal, leading to the end of the relationship even if there is no sexual contact with the person involved in this case.
Researchers looking at online relationships and real-life relationships find that:
“Online relationships have a certain seductive appeal which in some ways could be potentially more damaging to an offline relationship than an offline affair .”
The feeling of betrayal comes from knowing that your spouse shares things with someone else that they don’t share with you.
Maybe your partner is emotionally unavailable to you. When asked how they are doing, they say, “Good.” Reluctance to communicate and lack of emotional connection with you are warning signs that your spouse is secretly unhappy.
3. You or your partner is sleep deprived
Insomnia is a common symptom of depression. The inability to sleep can also be a sign of anxiety. Not being able to sleep through the night or waking up several times during the night is another symptom of depression. Lack of sleep can cause your partner to lack energy.
According to a study, insufficient sleep affects the quality of relationships and vice versa; a lousy attitude affects sleep quality. If you’re both dealing with chronic fatigue, it can affect your work, family, and mental and emotional life.
Sleeping on another bed or in the guest bedroom is another disturbing warning sign. Your partner tells them they need space. The change in their feelings towards you and the intimacy of sleeping together can also be problematic for your partner.