10 Unfortunate Signs She Wants To Break Up But Doesn’t Know How (And How To Respond)
Have you noticed a change in your relationship?
On the one hand, you can’t help but wonder if she’s leaving. But on the other hand, the energy of the New Relationship may have run its course, and she had just settled into the relationship.
Or maybe she’s just dealing with issues that have left her depressed and stuck. Well, it’s better to know for sure so you can still do something about it before she drops the “broken” bomb in your face.
Without further ado, here are ten signs a woman wants to break up but is still figuring out how.
1. She has become dazed
She complains about everything.
Well, it’s all about you and your relationship. Not with others. she is wholly kind and appreciative of everyone. Perhaps she does this because deep inside, she feels pain, which has turned into resentment.
Maybe you haven’t taken her on a proper date in a while, even if she keeps dropping hints that she’d like to try a restaurant. Perhaps she found out that you are flirting with a co-worker and is waiting for you to admit it.
If she’s not confrontational, her frustration will show up in other things, usually tiny things that make you think: “What is happening to this woman?”
If she’s annoyed that you’ve passed on mayonnaise when she clearly says ketchup, she’s not bothered that you’ve passed on mayonnaise; she’s annoyed that you haven’t taken her out on a date yet.
2. She stopped saying, “I love you.”
Gone are the days of her “bothering” you by saying too many I love you in one day. You always initiate it, and when she responds, it forces her. she hums or says but doesn’t look you in the eye. You know something is off because you know how she says it when she’s in love.
If your girl is a natural person, it will be tough for her to lie to you. to say that she loves you when she doesn’t anymore. You have to stay in the relationship.
Expect that she will break up with you if she is already at this point. No sincere person wants to continue lying, especially not to herself.
3. She mentioned how unhappy she was… then stopped
Most women are fixers. Before thoroughly testing the relationship, they will try their best to make things better.
They will try to give you one more chance until they can’t. Part of her “fix” is to let you know what she thinks isn’t working great in your relationship.
Has your girlfriend or wife told you that they are unhappy? I hope you took it seriously. Maybe she did, but you dismissed it as her usual “drama,” or you tried to change for a few days, then reverted to your usual self after a few days.
If this has been happening for some time, chances are high that she has already given up and emotionally “broken up” with you. Maybe she’s just working out the logistics before it breaks you.
4. She spends more time with her friends
Girlfriends are special. They stick together like family… that is until they get a lover. When your relationship was going well, her date nights with friends were slowly replaced by your date nights. Trust me; I know so many female friends who are like this. We have come to accept that this is normal.
If your girl is so full of her girl gang that she’ll spend the night with them with you, then something’s up.
If there is no reason for them to be together often, your girl might spend more time with them to pour out her heart and ask for advice (perhaps on how to break up with you).
And, of course, she wants to be around them to breathe to escape your relationship.
5. She is no longer interested in your life
She was always interested in you and everything you do. She asked about your parents, your friends, and the latest score of your favorite game. she was a little nervous in a cute way.
Most women naturally want intimacy, to feel like they belong together and are part of each other’s worlds, and most do that by communicating… A lot.
If your girlfriend stops being interested in you, maybe it’s because she’s not interested anymore. Of course, she will not be so rude. she would nod and ask a short question when you shared something. But here’s what you can get from her. No enthusiasm or sparkling eyes.
She probably thinks it’s useless to know things about you when she leaves you soon.
6. She is no longer a monster with green eyes
She was jealous when a girl talked to you.
She’s okay with it.
She doesn’t even care much if a girl whispers in your ear!
She might even be praying that you cheat so that it will be easy for her to leave because she can finally go to you without feeling guilty. After all, you’ll be the “bad guy” for doing it.
When a girl stops being jealous, she’s either matured (in that case, congrats), or she’s stopped caring about you and your relationship.
7. Relationship talks stopped utterly
When a couple stops talking when they have something to talk about, it’s a sign they’re about to break up. And you know there’s still a chance a girl has feelings for you if she’s willing to talk about your relationship.
If your girl stops talking about your relationship when she previously initiated it a lot, she checked out… like ten years ago.
She no longer wants to be on the same team as you.
She quit her job.
Most likely, she has taken her grief to task and is now working on herself. She chose not to address the issues in your relationship because it is hopeless. It has been tried many times, and it all amounted to nothing.
At this point, breaking up is not a matter of “if” but a concern of “when” for her.
8. She has undergone a total makeover
When someone wants to break up with you, they prepare everything before they tell you. This means they will mentally, emotionally, and physically prepare themselves.
If your girl has done most of the things listed above and she’s suddenly changed her haircut, taste in movies and music, and ways of doing things… then she’s probably good to go.
Maybe it’s her way of distancing herself from the relationship. If she still can’t do it faster, she changes what she can.
She wants to be born again because it is something she has control over. And once things settle down and it’s easy for her to leave, she will. And by then, it’s already over you.
9. She is no longer on your side
You used to be a great team. When one of you is in need, the other will soon come to the rescue.
When others tried to tear you apart, both of you would come together and fight. You felt lucky. You haven’t just found someone to love; you’ve found a partner in crime!
But now all that is gone. Even sometimes, when she takes the side of your “enemies” to her side, at first, she might say something like, “Maybe they have a point,” and later, she might say something like, “Well, of course, they’re right.” I told you to do better!’
Now, this happens more often. I can’t help but wonder why.
Maybe you lost her trust and respect. Perhaps, she came to be offended by you. Or maybe she already sees clearly that she is not loving; maybe her enemies have a point.
It’s hard to say for sure, but it pays to keep an open mind moving forward.
10. She is like an empty vessel
Being around her feels completely different now. She’s laughing and talking to you, but you can tell she’s not happy. You could say she’s just faking it, so she doesn’t rock the boat as she prepares the lifeline.
You can tell by the way she moves. She is with you, but in reality, she is somewhere else. And when you make love? Maybe you’re sleeping with rock too. It feels like she’s just going through the motions now.
The lover you used to know is long gone. All you’re left with is an empty shell. He has no life or passion, just nothing to say about who she used to be.
Listen carefully and awaken your senses. You can feel it without the other symptoms mentioned in this list.
How to answer if this is your daughter?
Act fast if all these signs make you think about your daughter. If you dawdle, you might lose it. But at the same time, there is no opportunity to act hastily or carelessly. So hold your horses. A wrong move can push her away from you.
So sit down and think for a moment and plan your actions.
1. Ask yourself if you want to fix the relationship?
Sometimes, even though we know deep down it’s true, we get emotional when something ends. Maybe you’re inconsistent, or perhaps you’re doing your part in the relationship, but she doesn’t admit it.
Think about it. Before you think about saving the relationship, think about yourself.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do I love her, or am I just staying for a relationship?
- Am I using my energy and strength in my connection?
- Do I see us being together five or ten years from now?
- Is it worth the trouble?
- Is it better to be friends instead?
- Am I doing what she wants in a mate?
2. If yes, talk to her for good
Okay, so you’ve decided to convince her to stay. Brace yourself because it won’t be easy, and there’s a good chance you’ll end up hurt.
But you are ready to shoot. So keep the following in mind:
- Don’t accuse her of wanting to dump you right off the bat. Instead, tap into the fact that you feel like she’s pulling away more and ask him what’s wrong.
- Apologize for your mistakes and let her vent her frustrations on you.
- Try to understand the reasons why she wants to leave you. Think about what you can do about them.
- Ask her if she will give you another chance if you want to improve. Tell him you are ready to let him go if she wants to leave you.
- Tell her exactly how you plan to resolve your issues.
- Don’t play the blame game. Don’t try to blame her for not doing enough or get on board with blaming yourself. Just admit your mistakes.
- Don’t include friends and family members forcing her to stay. She hurts more than you.
- Don’t beg, don’t beg. she already has a low opinion of you, and you don’t need to lower her any further—behave with dignity.
3. If she is willing to use it, recommend it thoroughly; if not, give the location
This is not a guarantee that I will please her. Thankfully, with some help from professional trainers, you’ll be able to improve your chances.
But say she’s willing to give you another try. Good! Now is the time to honor any promises you made.
- Earn her trust. she has the right to be wary of you.
- Regarding your promises, focus on the spirit of the contract, not the letter.
- Don’t hesitate to go above and beyond what is asked of you. Just make sure your heart gets into it.
- Remember her boundaries. Her being your girlfriend is not a free pass to ignore her limitations.
- But when she says no, don’t force her to change her mind or tell her she’s wrong. she made her choice.
If she doesn’t want you, you don’t need to unfriend or unfriend her on social networks. But avoid things that will imply that you are still together.
- Don’t post pictures of your happy times together, even if you hope she remembers her.
- Don’t bring up the subject again, or bring it up if she doesn’t bring it up first.
- Give her space. Don’t invite yourself to her places and events if she doesn’t invite you.
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It’s sad to see signs that the love of your life wants to leave. But I’d like to comfort you by reminding you that this happens in many relationships, even the healthiest ones.
It would help if you spotted the signs sooner to get her back on track and into your relationship.
All you have is time—it’s still with you—so use it wisely and conquer it before you finally get your feet out the door. Who knows, you might be proactive in swallowing her back, which she’s been waiting for all along.