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An Open Letter To All The Guys I Have Friendzoned

Dear man who I friendzoned,

It’s time to deal with the elephant within the room and are available to phrases with the truth that being “friendzoned” isn’t a curse in spite of everything. If something, it’s probably the perfect factor to occur to you, as a result of when I come as a buddy in your life, I carry to the desk much more than I would have if we ever dated.

Not solely am I the form of buddy who may have your again and provide you with strong recommendation on any subject however I may also set you up with loads of single individuals I know and make your life higher simply by being in it.

You see, being friendzoned doesn’t need to imply banishment or come throughout as comfort of any variety. It’s not a downgrade, however an actual improve from being simply one other man in my life to 1 who holds actual worth.

It means having one thing stronger than a sense that may solely final a few weeks earlier than it fizzles out. It means having somebody to carry on to, cry with, snort with, share deep and darkish secrets and techniques with, make choices with, gossip with, go date-hunting with, and most significantly – to at all times depend on. Why? Because this manner, neither of us has to get harm.

I gained’t throw the entire ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ factor in your face. Because it actually IS you. You are the explanation why I wouldn’t need to make issues so expendable by courting you when I am sure I don’t have emotions for you. You are additionally the explanation why I would relatively select to maintain you in my life for good versus simply attempting you out like a dress in a retailer.

Sometimes, it truly is that easy – you might be simply too valuable to lose. And for everybody who tells you ‘a girl and a guy can’t be mates’, it’s as a result of they have been at all times too butthurt to look past that angle. We do not need to be.

Yes, I admit, it should’ve harm. I can say as a result of I’ve been friendzoned too and it sucked. But over time, I’ve realised that life is nuanced and so are relationships. Two individuals needn’t essentially shove their tongues in one another’s mouths or get the official authority to seize ass for them to imply one thing to one another.

They can imply much more by being of their life in a unique, extra platonic means too. But that may imply you studying find out how to maintain again on these emotions of affection and asking me out each couple of months regardless of figuring out my answer. It hurts me greater than it hurts you.

Don’t aspire to be the Ranbir from Ae Dil Hai Mushkil or Kajol from Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, as a result of even Karan Johar gained’t have the option that can assist you. Not except somebody tragically dies…

You don’t need to impress me, purchase me costly items, hate on my present dates, dodge my side-hugs, drunk dial and confess your love, take me out on fancy dates on the off probability that I *would possibly* allow you to maintain my hand on the experience again dwelling (as a result of I gained’t) and also you definitely don’t need to maintain me as your precedence.

Most ladies, together with myself, work on butterflies and in the event that they weren’t there for the primary ten occasions we met, they wouldn’t magically come now.

It’s okay, it’s time to transfer on. There are loads of fish within the sea, and God is aware of I am an unbelievable wing-woman.

What I am not is a sadist or a masochist. I don’t get pleasure from being the one breaking your coronary heart or main you on. And it’s as a result of I care that I want so that you can direct your efforts in direction of somebody who will reciprocate in the identical language. After all, mine begins and ends with friendship.

And the day you cease it as one thing supplied to you out of sympathy, is the day you’ll realise simply how multi-faceted, stunning and legendary this friendship may be.

P.S – I hope there might be no laborious emotions (pun meant).

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