Men will be troublesome to learn at instances.
Some have a tendency to be so oblique with their emotions that it’d begin to frustrate and confuse you.
You may end up stressing about what he wants from you:
Does he need to be with you? Or is he simply searching for a good time?
While he may not say his intentions out loud, he may positively be displaying it.
If he’s chilly to you after seeing you with one other guy, that might imply he’s jealous and wants to be with you.
You don’t want to be a mind-reader; you simply want to be extra observant than earlier than.
Since actions converse louder than phrases, listed below are 12 ways to assist you decide what he wants from you by them.
1. How Often Are You Together?
It’s typically the case that when you spend extra time with somebody, there’s a larger probability that an attraction may begin brewing.
Noticing how typically the each of you are collectively may assist you gauge not solely how he feels about you however what he wants from you too.
If you solely actually get to see one another a few days a week, there may not be any trigger for confusion and suspicion.
But if he’s all the time asking if he can cease by, or if he wants to have lunch with you typically, that is likely to be a signal of one thing else.
While it may not all the time be a signal of one thing romantic – it might be that he simply wants to be your buddy – it’s sure now that he sees one thing totally different in you.
2. How’s His Attitude When You’re Together?
What is he like when you’re spending time collectively?
If he’s appearing chilly, virtually as if he isn’t even that enthusiastic about your conversations, then it could be honest to guess that he sees you simply as another particular person.
If his perspective is extra flirty – utilizing a casual pick-up traces, attempting to get you to snicker at his jokes, being extra accommodating than others – which may imply he wants you to discover him.
He wants you to concentrate to him, as a result of he may truly be falling (or has fallen) for you.
3. What is His Body Language Like When You’re Out Together?
Actions do definitely converse louder than phrases.
Noticing the way in which he acts can provide you extra of a trace about what he’s searching for from you.
If he doesn’t perk up a lot, slouching ahead, and the tone of his voice is monotone or unchanged when you’re collectively, that might imply that he doesn’t really need something from you; he sees you as a casual acquaintance.
But if you discover that he pulls his shoulders again, possibly stands a little taller, and leans in nearer to you when you’re speaking, that might imply he wants you to discover him as a result of he is likely to be enthusiastic about you.
4. How Often Do You Talk?
Often the period of time you discuss is tied to the period of time you spend collectively.
Or, not less than, the period of time you every have one another in your minds.
Do you textual content within the mornings? Call within the evenings? It is likely to be his means of subtly letting you know he’s enthusiastic about you.
Who initiates the conversations?
If he does it typically, then in the future doesn’t do it, it is likely to be his means of gauging your curiosity in him.
If you don’t textual content him that day, you may begin seeing his messages get fewer and farther between.
If he dedicates a lot of his time speaking to you, getting to know you, then you might be extra assured that he may like you greater than you figured.
5. What Do You Often Talk About?
Do you discuss shallow issues, such because the climate or what every of you are at present engaged on?
That may not imply a lot; he may simply need to be well mannered with you.
It’s a great way to know, not less than, that you aren’t each strangers to one another.
But if he retains the dialog going, which may imply he has a deeper intent.
Do you discuss your frustrations with work? Your relationship issues?
That might imply that he’s simply attempting to discover somebody to specific his emotions to.
But if you begin getting to know one another’s likes and dislikes, goals and fears, relationship histories, he may need to take your platonic relationship to one other degree finally.
6. How Does He Chat Through Text?
While it is likely to be troublesome to gauge somebody’s emotion and intent by means of textual content, one can nonetheless make a guess based mostly on how they kind.
There are some guys which can be simple with their messages.
They say issues akin to, “Noted.”, or “Ok.” which doesn’t go away a lot room for interpretation.
It may simply be him holding it skilled. He may even simply ship a thumbs-up emoji.
But if he appears extra candid by means of textual content, which may imply he wants to kind a deeper relationship with you.
He is likely to be texting with emojis, sending “Hahaha”s, and even attempting to make you snicker by means of textual content.
That might imply that he likes you and may need a extra casual relationship collectively.
7. How Much Does He Share With You?
Does he open up to you about his emotions?
Does he tell you delicate or traumatic tales from his previous?
Men don’t have a tendency to be weak to simply anybody. So this might imply one thing.
He is likely to be telling you this as a result of he wants you to know that he trusts you.
He sees you as a dependable buddy that may hear him out, and discuss his emotions with.
This is the gateway for a extra intimate relationship, that doesn’t all the time want to lead to romance – it might be the beginning of a significant friendship.
8. How Does He React to What You Say?
When you tell him excellent news about one thing that occurred to you, how excited is he?
Does he give you a pleasant pat on the again and a “Good job!” or is it thrilled for you, matching your vitality and enthusiasm as if he was the one which acquired the excellent news within the second?
If that’s the case, then he may simply be a supportive buddy.
But if he surprises you with roses to congratulate you, that might be his means of telling you that he actually likes you.
9. How Much Do His Friends Know About You?
When you meet his pals, do they know you already? Or are you nonetheless a stranger to them?
Men normally tell their pals concerning the ladies that they’re attracted to.
So if his pals know extra about you than you would’ve anticipated, which may imply that he actually does see one thing in you.
You might additionally take this opportunity to ask his pals what they assume he thinks of you – it might assist you discover some readability within the scenario.
10. How Often Does He Go Out of His Way for You?
When you’re having bother, does he drop no matter he’s doing and rush in the direction of you to assist you?
Or does he suggest another person that is likely to be smarter than him to assist clear up your downside?
When he deliberately goes out of his means for you, goes someplace far to purchase you one thing you like, that might be his means of claiming that he’s severe about you.
If he splurges an excessive amount of in a matter of days, although, he may simply be searching for a good time, and nothing lengthy lasting.
11. How Does He Act When He Sees You with Other Guys?
When he sees you with different guys, how is he?
Is he welcoming of them?
Or does he appear cautious, as if he’s prepared to battle them?
Does he act passive aggressive to you when you’re alone once more?
He gained’t really feel jealous if he doesn’t really feel something for you.
So if he’s appearing chilly in the direction of you, which may imply his emotions for you are extra severe than you would’ve thought.
12. How Does He Respond When You Ask Him Directly?
The greatest means to clear up some confusion is to be simple with him and ask what he wants from you.
If he beats across the bush and goes off matter, which may imply that he’s nonetheless not sure about it.
If he tells you it’s nothing, however appears to hesitate and appears nervous, he is likely to be hiding the truth that he likes you.
But if he can look you within the eye and say there’s nothing happening, he may simply need you as a buddy.
How to Respond to Him
If he’s displaying indicators he’s enthusiastic about you, then it’s your selection whether or not you need to flirt again or not. It relies upon whether or not you’re enthusiastic about him too.
Still, you by no means make sure if he’s main you on although, so holding your emotional distance is likely to be your greatest means to defend your psychological well being.
That’s why it is likely to be higher to confront him about it as soon as and for all to get a clear image of what’s happening.
You will be direct with him, and which may simply put sufficient strain on him to tell you what he’s actually feeling.