In a relationship, it’s usually the woman interested in settling down and getting married and the man who needs time to figure out if he’s finally ready.
But there are times when it is the opposite: a man who is desperate to find a wife and start a family finally. While this is not common, it sometimes happens and can change a man’s behavior around you during the dating phase.
If he’s trying to trick you into believing he’s the perfect husband instead of being who he is, how do you know he’s being honest?
In a long-term relationship, sometimes it’s hard to decipher the subtle signs a significant other is sending. If you think your partner is entertaining the idea of marriage, look for these signs to give you clues.
Here are 12 signs that a man wants to get married:
1. He does everything you say
You’ve never been in a relationship with someone so kind, have you?
Whatever you want, he will do what you say.
Restaurant choices are based on what you want to eat; travel options are based on where you want to go; even what you watch on Netflix at night on the couch is up to you.
He wants you to know that he is the ultimate partner and does this by pretending he has no arguments. He will support you, no matter what you do or say, even if it means ignoring her beliefs and values.
His most crucial identity right now is your potential husband, nothing else.
2. He is skipping stages in a relationship
There has never been a rule book regarding dating; you shouldn’t do certain milestones at specific points in the relationship’s life.
But you feel that everything is happening very quickly. And with this guy, it feels like that with every relationship phase you go through.
It just doesn’t feel like things are moving at their natural pace. The relationship is quickly pushed forward, a sort of force along the way faster than you’re used to.
But when you ask him about it, he won’t admit why he wants to meet your family so soon, why he wants to live together so quickly, or why he’s ready to quit his job and find a new job closer to you. Soon.
In your heart, you may still feel like you’re just dating, but based on the relationship stages you’ve already gone through, it’s as if you’re already engaged.
3. He wants to be BFFs with your family
If you’ve never been with a guy who wants to date your family, dating a man who’s desperate for marriage can be overwhelming, especially since he’ll want to become BFFs with every family member as soon as possible.
He is not afraid of your mother, father, or sisters – he embraces them.
He is at this stage where he knows that the easiest way to convince you to marry him is to convince your family that he is the best husband you can get.
He knows they’re accessible to your heart, so he doesn’t beat around the bush; he’s trying to impress them almost as much (if not more) than he is trying to impress you.
4. He wants you to dress more conservatively
One of the downsides of dating a man who is desperate for marriage is that they start to “wife” you. Even if you are still in the early stages of dating, he will want to make you the perfect wife in his head.
And one of the essential qualities of that perfect imaginary wife is that she dresses like a wife.
So if you hear him talk about how your clothes can be too sexy or show too much skin, it’s probably a sign that he wants you to look like a wife by dressing like a traditional wife or mother.
5. All his friends are married couples
Nothing sets wedding bells ringing in her head more than seeing each of her closest friends tie the knot. After being a part of so many bachelorette parties, no doubt he’s wondering, “When am I going to have mine?”
And seeing her friends in marriage could have been the last push he needed to see that married life wasn’t so bad after all.
Now all he needs is the right person to do it. If you start “couple dates” with her and her married couple friends, it could all be a ruse to convince you that it’s time to break up with her too.
6. He is making plans
Guys don’t bring up things they don’t want to discuss. But when a man brings up his plans, it indicates that he wants to know your opinion about them and your opiwhichght of him.
7. He wants to be your hero
If this guy is desperate to marry you, you can be sure that your bottom dollar has activated its instinct to protect and defend you.
For kids, it’s all about unleashing their inner hero. And this is something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drives make men the heroes of their lives. They feel better, love more, and feel more potent when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Relationships will have difficult moments and can become more difficult as time goes on. If your man stays by your side during these times and doesn’t run away, it’s a good sign that he’ll want to be with you on your wedding day.
It’s not worth it. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a hat. Knowing the right words is enough for him to understand that he wants only her and you.
8. He forgives everything
A man who wants to get married is a man who feels that his age has reached him.
He knows he doesn’t have years to keep jumping from girl to girl; if he wants to start a family and a home with someone, he should do it now.
And that means he’ll do whatever it takes to keep his current relationship going, even if that means being more forgiving than he should be.
It doesn’t matter what you do to her – talk to her other “boyfriends,” argue with her about her hobbies, or talk trash about her to your friends – he will still find a way to forgive you.
While this isn’t something you have to use, it’s something to think about. Do you want to be with a man who compromises his values to get married? Does he want a wedding?
9. He plans his life around you
You’ve been on a few dates and had fun together, but nothing more (at least so far). So why does it seem like he’s already planning the rest of his life around the idea that he has to include you?
There is no more significant sign of marital despair than this.
Maybe you want to live in another state or country; he will start talking about moving his career into the same field and joining several big companies.
Maybe you don’t want kids, and he does, or vice versa; he will start leaning towards your choice and then say that he can convince you otherwise when you are more “stable”..”e no longer sees himself only as himself. In his mind, now and forever, you and him.
10. He doesn’t care about staying safe in bed anymore
Most couples focus on getting pregnant. The last thing you want is an unexpected, unplanned, “accidental” pregnancy. But he’s happy to be utterly wild in bed with you, with zero defenses.
He’ll say it’s just because he wants to have the best sex possible with you, but in the back of your mind, you know that if you end up pregnant, it won’t bother him.
He is more than happy to trap you into marriage.
11. He has been engaged in the past
If you’re still unsure if your man wants to get married, ask yourself – has he been engaged in the past, or has he been in a long-term relationship?
If the answer to both questions is yes, he’s probably been hearing wedding bells in his head for years. He has already admitted that he wants to get married and proved it with his previous relationship.
For one reason or another, the relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean her desire to get married suddenly disappeared; now, he tries to put the ring on the right woman’s finger this time.
You are the right woman.
12. He is pushy to get answers from you
In a relationship, it’s okay to ask questions and have regular conversations; this is to be expected.
But when it gets to that point, you start to feel like every conversation revolves around the same common theme – what are your plans for the future? – then starts to feel a little weak.
It’s almost as if a guy is desperate for marriage if he wants your “soft Yes” from day one. He will bind you to soft commitments, talk about where you will spend your next summer and winter vacation together, how you will feel about living with him, and all your life decisions.
Even if it is too early in the relationship to be at this stage, he wants to feel you are as committed as he is. Now, if you feel that your man is not desperate for marriage, you want him to be more committed to you in the long run.
So the key here is to connect with your man in a way that empowers both him and you. Even if he’s joking when he says he wants to marry you, it means he’s comfortable enough to mention it and wants to see how you feel about it.
Men can’t always say what they mean clearly, and often when they try, it comes out wrong; regardless of whether or not your son has expressed his desire to marry you, watch out for these signs on his mind.